Be it at home or your workplace, relationships play a key role in creating a harmonious atmosphere.
At your work, it’s important to forge good working relations with your boss, your peers and your subordinates.
If you want to have a stressfree atmosphere, which is essential for growth and productivity.
Consider the case of Masud, a middle-level manager in a company.
Masud’s boss burdens him with a lot of work, which does not fall under the purview of Masud’s responsibility.
Though Masud feels that the workload is more than what he can handle,
he does not communicate this to his boss, for the fear of antagonizing him.
Masud’s relationship with his subordinates to leaves him dissatisfied.
No one seems to listen to him and Masud thinks they are a bunch of inefficient people.
Consequently, he remains grumpy and aloof.
On the other hand, Redwan, Masud’s colleague, is confident and self-assured.
He always seems to get his way with the boss and his peers.
He can finish his workload smoothly and has a more efficient and cheerful set of subordinates.
Or so it seems to Masud.
Matters come to a head when Redwan and Masud have to work together in a project.
Masud withholds some vital information and the project backfires.
Masud’s co-workers begin to avoid him when they know the truth. Seems surprising? Not at all.
Masud’s problems can be traced to his inability to forge stable working relationships with people.
What were Masud’s problems and how can he tackle them?
Masud is non-assertive:
Despite not being able to handle the extra workload, he didn’t speak up because he thought he would antagonise his boss.
In the bargain, not only did his work suffer but also his relationship with his boss.
Poor delegation skills:
You would be a lot more calmer, creative and productive if you delegate works intelligently.
Maybe your subordinates hate the feeling of not having enough to do.
Maybe it’s because you don’t trust them.
Remember trust breeds trust. Masud would have been a lot happier if he practised this.
Poor team spirit:
A team is set up with certain goals in mind. Are you aiding or hindering it? If in a team, ask yourself:
Are you . . .
performing as a team member or are solely concerned with your individual needs, demands and style of functioning?
Sharing information with others?
Preoccupied with ego conflicts within the group?
unable to get a hearing and contribute positively?
Do you scatter into small-groups, instead of working as a whole?
Contributing to pressure:
Your attitude could be responsible for creating pressure at work.
Inconsistent behaviour with people, going back on your word, poor planning leading to a last-minute rush
and panic and loud behaviour at the workplace all contribute to your being a source of stress for others.
Being excessively competitive, callous and insensitive towards other people
and constantly interrupting others are also potential stressors for others.
Do you react to pressure by finding fault with others?
Whenever you feel threatened or insecure, you tend to deflect the focus away from yourself.
For instance, on being overlooked for a promotion, the fault lies with the boss.
If the workplace seems threatening, the management is to blame.
Blaming others can afford a temporary relief from the situation,
but it creates more stress because you live with the fear of being found out.
If you have shirked from your responsibility, it reflects poorly on your character.
If Masud is your mirror image, it’s time for remedial measures.
Your work and workplace should be a place for self-realization and enhancement, not self-debilitation.